The Single life!

So you wake up ’jejeli’ on your  own deciding to have a day out to forget all the pressure from the home front telling you to go and get married asking if something wrong with you. So you get dressed, go on outside and begin to observe the happenings around you. First you see a happy looking young lady with her beautiful baby and her husband carrying the bag beside her, looking around again you notice an older couple taking a leisurely stroll around the neighborhood. Again you see two teenagers looking so excited, the girl looking slightly flushed and the guy trying so hard to impress her. Then you begin thinking this outing might not be such a great idea and to top it all up you see an old friend with her hubby in the same attire on their way to attend an event and you smile and try so hard to look like you are happy.

Okay so you decide let me stay indoors instead and watch a movie (to avoid anymore drama) and you end up crying throughout the whole movie because the it ended with the couple living happily ever after and you wish it was your story being played over in front of you.Single life sucks you say, how I wish I had someone in my life, a companion, someone I can talk to freely and not hide anything from, someone who we can share the good and the bad times with. Why does everyone seem so happy apart from me! It’s like the whole world is ganging up against you to make you feel miserable.

Am so lonely!

Well my dear you are not alone and it is just a phase everyone (well almost) passes through and it shall surely pass like every season in life. 

‘There is a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to harvest’.

Remember there was a time you were in primary school and you wished you were in secondary school then you wished you were in the university able to do anything you want , and then you wished you had a job and making money on your own and then…etc. Also people in their 50’s 60s and 70s wish they were much younger and some married couples today wished they were still single or wished they had maximized the time they had as a single person properly. 

So you see we humans are insatiable always wanting more and needing more.

After you finally get married then you will wish you had kids, and then you would wish they were all grown up and then…the list goes on.  Yes the feeling of loneliness will come and yes the need for companionship will come and sometimes it may even overwhelm you but just keep in mind that it is a phase and this too shall pass.

So don’t put your life on hold because you are single, occupy yourself, pursue your dreams, discover yourself, read, learn , get yourself ready  and prepare because very soon you won’t have so much time on your hands. You will have to start thinking about how to balance work, life, family, children, spouse etc. and if you aren't careful you might get all drowned up and lose yourself in it. So use your time wisely.

Remember this though: ‘The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all’.

So my dear enjoy the single life while it last because it won’t last forever!

If you are still single share your thoughts with me on this topic.

* jejeli - gently

FORGIVE ME WHEN I WHINE !

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  Today, upon a bus, I saw a very beautiful

  woman and wished I were as beautiful.

  When suddenly she rose to leave,

  ... I saw her hobble down the aisle.

  ... She had one leg and wore a crutch.

  But as she passed, she passed a smile.

  Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.

  I have two legs; the world is mine.

  
  

  
  
  

  I stopped to buy some candy.

  The lad who sold it had such charm.

  I talked with him, he seemed so glad.

  If I were late, it'd do no harm.

  And as I left, he said to me,

  "I thank you, you've been so kind.

  It's nice to talk with folks like you.

  You see," he said, "I'm blind."

  Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.

  I have two eyes; the world is mine.

  
  

  
  
  

  Later while walking down the street,

  I saw a child I knew.

  He stood and watched the others play,

  but he did not know what to do.

  I stopped a moment and then I said,

  "Why don't you join them dear?"

  He looked ahead without a word.

  I forgot, he couldn't hear.

  Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.

  I have two ears; the world is mine.

  
  

  
  
  

  With feet to take me where I'd go.

  With eyes to see the sunset's glow.

  With ears to hear what I'd know.

  Oh, God, forgive me when I whine.

  I've been blessed indeed, the world is mine.

  
  

  
  
  

  OK  so did not write it but I got it from a friends page on Facebook. 

  Am in a season of life where I really feel like whining this sort of brought me back to reality.

  I have every reason to be grateful!

  
  

  
  

  Kudos to Ekaete for posting it .

  
  

Am Coming Home!

Its been a while since I have 'blogged' or even written anything, If you asked me one of my favourite activities I would confidently say writing. I sit back and try to to remember when last I wrote anything and sadly I noted that it has been a while.  I have missed it a lot and I can see the effect by the number of thoughts running through my head seeking an outlet.

I see writing as an outlet. It frees me to say many things I would not ordinarily talk about.
I am not much of a talker but when it comes to writing the way I feel about an issue I could go on and on....

So I guess I will say am coming back home. Wish me luck as I begin the journey again into the world of writing.