On yesterday's post, my husband talked about PURSUING! He actually mentioned in the first paragraph ways that one can tell if she/he is the one for you to marry. I will repost what he said and then elaborate.
PAV: "If you are both believers, your feelings are mutual, you both feel you can not live without each other and you both believe that God will be pleased with you two marrying, PURSUE."
The TWO biggest keys we believe are, BOTH should be BELIEVERS and FEELINGS should be MUTUAL! Who says you can not have chemistry? Who says you must marry someone just because everyone says they will be a good fit for you? Don't take the saying "God will send you someone" to mean that God will send you someone you will be disgusted by and you must obey God and marry them! We do believe God has the perfect person for those that will marry(Gen 2:18), but we believe that includes being attracted to that person as well. If you can hardly stomach being around someone, how will your marrying them glorify God? Even in my own marriage I am HEAVILY attracted to my husband and vice versa. We know we will age and looks will change, but in our eyes, there will always be that attraction that drew us together. That attraction was not only God, but other things we absolutely loved about each other; physically, mentally and spiritually.
So while we can not tell you EVERY single way to know someone is the one for you to marry, we can tell you what we believe is the Foundation for marrying. Both should be believers! Because that means your marriage will be based on Christ! Next, feelings should be mutual. You should NEVER force yourself to marry someone or try to force them to marry you. Both should feel they are right to marry each other. There also may be some kind of feeling that you MUST have each other in your lives, like each other is needed to fulfill God's purpose on the earth. And marrying each other should please God. Remember, when you understand the true meaning of marriage, you will marry someone who will enhance your life all to the Glory of our King, not just someone who will look good on your arm!
There are other things to consider as well, but the basis is found in those 4 things we mentioned. Because some people have bad habits, short comings, money and health issues, etc. That is why it is ALWAYS good to seek God BEFORE you make such a big step in life!
Even if you do not believe in GOD "sending you THE ONE" and you feel you can choose whom you marry, we still say those things above are key even in your choosing! But as we ALWAYS ask, who created marriage? God did. So it makes sense to go to the CREATOR about what He CREATED! We hope this helps many of you who have been asking this question!
Prov 18:22, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the LORD".
Psalm 37:23, "The LORD DIRECTS the steps of the godly. He delights in EVERY DETAIL OF THEIR LIVES".
Prov 19:14, "Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife IS FROM THE LORD".
Prov 16:9, "In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD DETERMINES HIS STEPS."
culled from Truly Faithful page
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